How do you ever become happy again after losing a loved one?
I lost my grandparents when I was younger, but it was not a profound effect. I miss them lots and I wish they were here, but I am not disabled by the grief.
My good friend lost her boyfriend, and my cousin-in-law lost his dad today. This is my worst nightmare- losing my fiance or one of my parents.
How do people move on and lead normal lives?? I’m often crippled by the fear of losing a loved one.
i never lost anyone close until I was in my late 20s…i didn’t know how i would handle it, but I felt crippled. However, it really depends on the make-up of your family. As much as it hurt, I knew I was stronger than my brother and we both could not be at rock bottom, one had to be there for the other. And until that moment happened, I was as fearful as you are about losing a close family member.
to lead ‘normal’ lives, you just have to go thru the grieving process with other loved ones, and if you are the strong one in your family/group - it will come out; if you have other stronger ppl in your family/group, let them be the strong ones for you, and you will all pull each other together to cope with the situation. It’s funny how it works out; i would not have believed it until I went thru it myself.
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MrsRed said :
July 17, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Shit happens. You just need to realize that nothing good is going to come by mourning and fearing for the rest of your life.
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D.T. said :
July 17, 2009 at 8:27 pm
Sorry for your losses. I don’t think anyone actually could "get over it", their deaths will forever stay in your mind, in the back or in the front when you see a picture of them. Remember the happy, fun times you have had with them. The sadness will leave and you will once again have a smile on your face. If it’s either someone making you laugh or remembering a cherished memory of them. Cheer up! They would want you to be happy and know they are in a better place.
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Jimmy said :
July 17, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Just think… they’re in a better place… in Heaven, they’re as happy as can be… looking down on you and smiling at you. They aren’t dead, just relieved of the horrors life can hold… sometimes it’s just too overwhelming.
People die often to help people become stronger. This always helps me, if you are faced with an obstacle, tell yourself it’s one of God’s challenges and you will come up standing stronger than ever! It gives a lot of spirit to you
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Tabby said :
July 17, 2009 at 8:51 pm
You don’t have a choice. You just do what you have to do. I lost my dad 6 yrs ago and I still think about him a lot and still cry when I run across things of his that I kept (like his wallet, etc.). As time goes by it does get easeir.
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a.d. said :
July 17, 2009 at 9:33 pm
i never lost anyone close until I was in my late 20s…i didn’t know how i would handle it, but I felt crippled. However, it really depends on the make-up of your family. As much as it hurt, I knew I was stronger than my brother and we both could not be at rock bottom, one had to be there for the other. And until that moment happened, I was as fearful as you are about losing a close family member.
to lead ‘normal’ lives, you just have to go thru the grieving process with other loved ones, and if you are the strong one in your family/group - it will come out; if you have other stronger ppl in your family/group, let them be the strong ones for you, and you will all pull each other together to cope with the situation. It’s funny how it works out; i would not have believed it until I went thru it myself.
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